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Boundaries and Beyond

What are boundaries? How can I set my own boundaries? How can I know the boundaries of others? What should I do when my boundaries are not respected?

Educating children about setting boundaries and how to effectively voice those boundaries empowers young people to know their opinion matters and their body is their own. Consent education at this age is not a sexual topic. Demonstrating that every hug and high-five requires permission will lead children to think of respecting the bodies of others as they mature. This topic is ideal for elementary school or middle school ages. 

Audience groups for these sessions are best divided into the following Co-ed groups: Grades K-2, Grades 3-5, and Grades 6-8. Lauren will discuss boundaries and respect in order to educate our youth about how to stay safe.

More for Men

What does consent look like? How is consent more than "No means no"? How can I help when someone has experienced the pain of assault? Where do I fit in with the MeToo Movement?

Topics such as sexual coercion, when someone is unable to consent, and how to support victims of assault are vital to creating a generation of young men who truly understand sexual violence and how to help. 

While most conversations about sexual violence on college campuses focus on male-on-female violence, this talk highlights the lesser spoken about areas of the conversation vital to the safety and wellbeing of young men.

Nearly 7% of male undergraduate students experience rape or sexual assault. Validating potential males victims and discussing how to set their own boundaries will cultivate confident, informed young men who have a better understanding of their rights and the rights of others. This talk invites men into the conversation of how we can all help to keep ourselves and others safe. This talk is tailored to the male experience post #MeToo and where we go from here, ideal for high school- aged or college-aged males.

Supporting a Survivor

How can I help my loved one who is suffering from the pain of abuse or assault? What is the right thing to say or the right thing to do? How can I understand what he/she needs? Where do we go from here? 

If you are the parent or spouse of someone who is experiencing the pain of assault, you may feel lost and unsure of how to best give support. Understanding the mind of a victim can help on this journey toward supporting him/her through healing. 

As the victim of rape, I can think of no greater pain than suffering alone. And victims commonly feel alone. This talk is geared toward helping parents, spouses, siblings or close friends learn to walk alongside a victim on their journey toward healing. All victims heal at different speeds and in different ways, but we all need love and to know we are believed. 

Consent for Teens

What is consent? Why is consent important and how can I communicate my boundaries? When is someone unable to give consent?

Societal expectations and gender roles play a larger role in what teens believe they should be doing. Exploring these ideas and reinforcing the idea that their body is their own and consent is required for every action will create confident teens who know they can say "no." 

Educating teens about sexual assault, intimate partner violence, unhealthy relationships and how to set boundaries can ensure they have the tools to protect themselves and develop healthy relationships.  Further, we will explore sexual coercion, abuse of power, when someone is unable to consent and what to do when your boundaries are not respected. This topic is ideal for high school ages.

Consent on Campus

What does sexual violence look like? How can I protect myself against sexual violence? How can I support other victims who are suffering from the pain of assault? 

According to RAINN, 11.2% of all undergraduate and graduate students experience rape and sexual assault through physical force, violence or incapacitation. But what about when rape doesn't look like rape at all? Sexual coercion and the abuse of power can make it  harder to recognize when our boundaries are not being respected. During this talk, we will explore different examples of abuse in order to know what to look for. 

Each of us is likely to know someone who has experienced the pain of sexual assault. This talk will explore ways in which to support a victim and understand how to ask when we are unsure of his or her needs. Ideal for college students and administrators to ensure we are doing our best to create safe environments and support victims.

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